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From time to time, we all find ourselves surrounded by negative energy. In this post I’ll be going over some steps you can take to remove negative energy from your environment, and put in place some protections to ensure it doesn’t come back again.

Before I start though, I do need to make clear that I do not believe in demons, per se. I do believe in angels, or higher spirits, but not demons. That’s just me, and your own personal beliefs may differ, but either way, these techniques work. Also, I have a number of friends who carry a number of different religious beliefs, as such I am not going to address specific deities, please just use the one(s) you worship, and adjust as necessary.

The first thing you need to do is clear your space; house, apartment, working area (if you can do so.) Each house has its own “soul” if you will, and if you’ve moved into a home that has been previously occupied, you need to clear out any energies that were left behind by others who lived there. Start by cleaning the house from top to bottom. Open the windows, let some fresh air in, remove dirt, dust, cobwebs. Scrub the floors, bathrooms, the whole thing.

Once the house is clean, send everyone else away, you need to work on your own undisturbed for a while. Find the “center” of the house, which may or may not be the physical center. But look for the “heart” of the house, perhaps the kitchen, or the family room. Have a seat there (on the floor if that works), and just commune with the house for a bit (I know, it sounds silly, but do it anyway.) Close your eyes and see if the house has any messages to send you. Once you’re done, you can start your spiritual clearing.

Clearing can be done with any number of things: smoke from a sage bundle, water sprinkled around, salt, or sound (a bell, Tinshas, or Tibetan bowl works well.) Start at the front door of the house, and moving counter-clockwise through each room, smudge, sprinkle, or ring your chosen clearing element in each corner of each room. As you do so, say prayers for the removal of negative energy, even something simple like “Bad begone, good come in.” Do each room in the house this way, counter-clockwise in each room, counter-clockwise through the whole house. Then return to the center, and say a prayer thanking the house and Spirit/God for help in removing any negative energy.

Once you’ve finished removing the negative energy, do a final walk-through the whole house, this time clockwise, inviting only positive energy into the space.

As well, there are a couple of other things you can do to ensure that no negative energy enters your home. An easy one to do is to put a small flat knife under the front door mat, pointing outwards. This will send negative energy (and people) away, keeping them from harming you.

Another excellent thing to do if you’re dealing with someone who has a specific grudge against you is to create a mirror protection. Simple and easy, all it takes is a small pocket mirror, found at any drugstore or grocery store. Obtain some sea salt (the best to use for clearings of any sort), and wash the mirror with water in which some of the sea salt has been dissolved. Then, holding the mirror in your hand, ask your deity to use the mirror to send any negative thoughts or energy that anyone is sending you, right back to them. Set the mirror in the window of your bedroom, or in a window by the front door, pointing outward. This will deflect any negative energy back to the sender, and often will take you off their radar altogether.

These simple tips can help ensure your environment is safe, and that negative energy can’t enter your home and affect you. In another post I’ll go over how you can protect yourself from negative energy when you’re outside your home, check back later for that update.

I first came across this expression as a teen, when reading the novels and stories of grand master science fiction writer Robert Heinlein. He (I think) first used the term in The Moon is a Harsh Mistress, but it could have been earlier, I’m not certain.

I’ve used it for years, but never really thought about the actual derivation until today. So I dug through Google for a bit, and was interested to find that it likely comes from the Hawaiian word for anger.

So, literally translated “No huhū, chela” as RAH used to use it, means “No anger, servant.” Of course, that’s not the way Heinlein intended it. He used the term in the same sort of way as Australians use “No worries, mate.” Meaning, “Don’t sweat it m’dear”, or any similar expression.

But it actually bears further thought. Anger is an incredibly destructive emotion, if held onto. We all feel anger from time to time. Natural and normal. But there are several important things to bear in mind about it though:

  • We can control how we react to the anger we feel.
  • And we can decide to feel it move through us, and then let it go.

I hate it when someone tells me not to feel something. Hello, I can’t control what I feel. I can however, control how I react to what I feel. And that’s the crux of that biscuit. I can choose to express my anger, lash out at someone with it, give tit for tat. Or, I can release it, and let it leave my body.

Anger that is not released is hugely damaging, on several levels. Kept inside it can harm us mentally, spiritually, and even physically. As a lay homeopath, I can see the results of repressed anger in some persons, when this caustic emotion isn’t released one way or another, it works its way out through the body (often through the skin!)

So I try, as Heinlein would encourage me, to have no anger. Interestingly, this is also one of the precepts of the basic motto of Reiki, which reads:

Just for today….. Do not worry
Just for today….. Do not anger (I prefer to think of this as “Have no anger.”)
Just for today…..Honor your parents, teachers, and elders
Just for today…..Earn your living honestly
Just for today…..Show gratitude to every living thing.

The founders of Reiki have the same instruction as Heinlein – have no anger.

Anger has its uses, of course. It can spur us to take action, which otherwise we might not, and cause situations to become clearer that might not otherwise. Expressing your anger can lead to a resolution of the situation which caused it, although sometimes it doesn’t. But if nothing else, by expressing the anger in a way that causes no harm to the person for whom you feel it, you are releasing it so that it won’t cause you harm either. The key is finding such a way.

One of my favorite ways to express my feelings without necessarily sharing them with someone, is to write what I’d like to say down in a letter, on paper, in my own hand (all too often these days I write things on the computer, doing it by hand is interestingly powerful.) Then I take the letter, and rather than send it to the person, I burn it. This small ritual will, nine times out of ten, result in some resolution of the situation, even if it’s only the removal of my anger about it.

Sometimes by letting go, we help ourselves the most. So keep Heinlein’s words in mind the next time you feel yourself getting worked up about something.

“No Huhū”, as in most cases, it’s just not worth it.

I work alone, often by myself with no one but the dogs, Pandora, and the Internet to keep me company throughout the day. And that’s ok, I’m one of those folks who treasures my alone-time. But because of that, I often have time to think about things, turn them this way and that, and look at and into them.

One theme that has been rumbling through my thoughts of late is the concept of ambition. Here in the US, we place great value on ambition, and striving to attain things. For some, Attainment and Achievement rule their lives, and drive them from one project to another. We all know folks like this, the workaholics, the businessman who is in the office six and seven days a week, the doctor who is seldom home, the lawyer who is constantly buried in one book or tract or another.

Some of this behavior is created by society. Doctors are expected to work long hours, ditto lawyers. Business persons (men more than women, even today) are expected to put career first, and strive, strive, strive. Now I want to make clear, I am not taking a poke at working moms here, I’m not saying stay at home moms are better persons than those who work. Such choices are often far more complicated than clear-cut, and I respect every parent’s decision about whether to work or to stay at home with their children.

But the line between home and work has been blurring of late, and with the increasing connectivity made available to us by our cell phones and iPads and laptops, often we’re not really away from “work” even if we are. For some it’s hard to turn that phone off, shut the laptop, because the demands of their particular job means they must be able to be contactable at all times.

But is it healthy?

I have friends and family who work these long hours, heck, as a small businessperson with a new company, I’m just as prone as the next person to work too many days in a row. And as long as it only affects me, I figure a bit of that is ok.

What has been bothering me of late, is the rush to judgement of those who may not adhere to such a lifestyle. Who aren’t plugged into the net 24/7. Who may not, just may not, value the hyper-ambition that our nation seems to hold in such high esteem. We see it all the time; parents who choose to stay at home who are considered to be wasting their college education. People who perhaps have a specific degree, who wind up doing something totally different with their lives. Often such folk are looked down upon by others, who feel they’re not living up to their “potential”, whatever that means.

Where is it written that one must do that thing that one is very good at? I am spectacularly good at digging ditches, but it doesn’t mean I want to do it for work. I have a BFA in Photography from a good university, yet I stayed at home with my kids and instead did newsletters for other people. So what? Does that make me, and people who made choices such as mine lesser persons? I think not.

And where is it written that success in the business world leads to happiness, to personal satisfaction? It generally leads to material wealth, oh yes. But who is to say that the family living in a smaller house, with parents who have more time to spend with their growing children, are less “successful” than those in a huge mansion who don’t eat dinner together even once a week?

There’s a concept of Zen Buddhism called Wabi-Sabi. Now, I’m far from an expert on Buddhism, trust me. But in reading I’ve done of late, wabi-sabi has struck a nerve. Basically, it is the art of finding beauty in the simplicity, imperfection, and profoundness of nature. To live the concept of wabi-sabi is to put down the burden of material striving, and to learn to be satisfied with ourselves as we are.

We Westerners are continually striving to improve ourselves; physically, emotionally; materially. When do we say “enough!”? Why can’t we appreciate just being who we are, without all the striving? Part of the problem is certainly the media, and the completely unrealistic image presented to us and to children on the tv and through movies, video games, and YouTube. Part of it is certainly cultural – we pay our sports stars salaries in the millions, and our teachers get vilified for wanting a decent wage and benefits. It seems so upside down to me, and just doesn’t make sense.

My grandfather taught me many things in my youth, not the least of which was to treat each person with respect and afford them dignity. He could and did talk to anyone, in any walk of life, with the same graciousness and listened with the same attention. It was a powerful lesson indeed. Part of the lesson was not to judge someone on the cut of their clothes, the type of car they drove, or the job they held. He judged people (when he did so at all) by their actions, how they treated others, and what they did with their lives that had a positive effect on others.

In my mind, the person who sacrifices in some way for the benefit of others, has achieved more than those who sacrifice the needs of others in pursuit of some nebulous career goal. That parent who stays home with the kids. The child who cares for an aging parent. That teacher who stays in the classroom. The firefighter who volunteers his time, and risks his life for others. Those are achievements, as far as I am concerned.

And as the expression goes, when you’re on your deathbed, are you really going to wish you spent more time at work? I think not.

Tip of the Day

A ten percent solution of Peppermint essential oil mixed with a neutral carrier oil, applied to the forehead can reduce or eliminate a headache in minutes.


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